No I don't think so
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Chiefs planet has good dudes. People that understand being the good dude means getting fucked over sometimes. The real shitbags are out there fucking conqured puss and being shitbags.
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Even Big Guys Cry

- Alex Karras, 1977

Excellent book BTW. VERY funny.
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Hey guys.

Just checking in.

I am surprised at myself for remembering how strong and resilient I am.
Still not ready to talk too much about, though.
Distractions and reminders aren't helpful right now.

Haven't read the whole thread but I will.

This place gets nasty sometimes but it's also jammed packed with good people who aren't afraid to voice their true opinions.

What I have read has really helped.

Sincerely,

thank you.
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Keep up the good work, hate that shit happened to you especially with a child involved. What a dumb slore she is.
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GOOD DEAL.

Peace be with you brother, God be with you, and may the reddest of lights shine upon you.
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Beach
Having your heart ripped apart is the worst. Do not go back. Look forward for your kids . Your resolve will be rewarded.
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I'm actually going to suggest something that I haven't seen mentioned.

Forgive her

I'm not saying that you guys don't need some counseling, and serious relationship repair, but I know of many couples where the adultery didn't result in divorce. I know that it takes two to tango, but If you really do love her, and your children, then stay and deal with it. Forgiveness isn't about her...it's about you.

And honestly, take a few minutes and think about how powerful the testimony will be on the other side of this. To your future children. To your family. To your friends.

If God forgives us, we can forgive each other.
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Fuck this.
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Wake up to reality, asshole.
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:-)
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Agreed, marriages are repaired and saved all of the time

As you say... both sides need to be on board, but it happens frequently

I definitely do not agree with "once a cheater, always a cheater"... my ex and I both cheated on each other, and if I am ever lucky enough to find the right girl again, I'll chop off my junk before risking our love for some cheap, fleeting sex
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I could never do this. If the woman I love did this to me I'd leave her and never talk to her again.
I would lose all trust.
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IMHO, forgiving her is sound advice regardless of whether the relationship is ever repaired. In my experience, forgiveness isn't about letting the offending party off the hook. It's more about my own spiritual, psychological and emotional fitness. It's also a way to claim some control over an uncontrollable situation.
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