About a month ago, I was into the Whiskey and looking for reasons (excuses) to dive deeper into the abyss. I texted a friend while drunk and asked him why he had put me down in front of some people we were golfing with. He's super competitive and does this to mess with me because he knows I don't like it. It didn't really set well with me however I didn't say anything at the time. Mistake one. Mistake two was texting while drunk asking him why he felt it was necessary to put me down in front of a group of strangers. He asked if I was drinking Whiskey and I said yes. He basically texted back the he was sorry I feel bad. I sent him a text the next day saying that I was sorry for acting like a victim and was embarrassed by the whole thing. The last response I got was "I'm done with this conversation.".
This is someone that I've known for 40 years and helped me after my father died. We've been through a lot and I haven't heard anything from him. I'm to the point where I feel like dropping by his house to make sure he's okay. I haven't gotten any responses to texts about anything; wishing him a happy Thanksgiving, etc.
Sometimes it's good to just cool off for a while. He got the message that you don't like him giving you shit while golfing, as clumsily as it was communicated.
The ball is in his court now as to whether or not he still cares about your friendship. If he doesn't, you should probably just live with that. [Reply]
You probably weirded him out by texting him your feelings while drunk. So lets just get that out of the way.
If a friend of mine texted me in the middle of the night saying some shit like, "Hey man, remember when we were smoking bud and you cracked a joke? Well that really hurt my feelings man...", i'd probably apologize and wanna drop the convo too. Because in the back of my mind i'd be going, "Gaaaaaaaay!"'
And then i'd probably never be able to kick it with you the same again because i know you can't handle some friendly shit talk. [Reply]
When you feel comfortable about it, ask him for a favor.
Something dumb, that friends do for each other, like move some furniture. That's just an example, you don't have to ask him to help you with some manual labor; just something small that friends do for each other occasionally. Something like, "hey, i need some help moving this couch. Can you give me a hand, you asshole? no hurry, just sometime in the next couple weeks or so?" or whatever endearments you normally use.
If the friendship is still intact, he'll do it. If not, then you know it's probably become a bigger issue. [Reply]
