Originally Posted by Gonzo:
Some of you know that Lumpy and I divorced a few years ago and we have an autistic son together.
Now then, the last thing he needs is people calling her names and telling him to dump her etc.
This is a decision that he needs to make on his own. He's got to take so much into account here.
What happens to his daughter, his income, property etc.
Will the divorce be nasty or not, can they reconcile? Lawyers are expensive.
The biggest mistake she and I made was not trying hard enough. We've since reconciled and now we live together again and could not be happier. We should've got counseling and taken some time apart. If we had, we would've made it without losing thousands of dollars.
Holy shit. I had no idea you guys split. Shows WTF I know. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ClevelandBronco:
IMHO, forgiving her is sound advice regardless of whether the relationship is ever repaired. In my experience, forgiveness isn't about letting the offending party off the hook. It's more about my own spiritual, psychological and emotional fitness. It's also a way to claim some control over an uncontrollable situation.
Forgiving my ex-wife has done wonders for every single relationship in my life. Seriously.
And now, we're friends again, my girlfriend and my ex are friends, and most of all, our BS doesn't get in the way of doing the right things for our kid.
Forgiveness is everything.
But I could never actually go back to being in an intimate relationship with my ex- she hurt me too much for any possibility of that ever again. It's okay, I understand and I forgive her... but I could never put myself in that situation again. Probably never get married again.
Originally Posted by rabblerouser:
Forgiving my ex-wife has done wonders for every single relationship in my life. Seriously.
And now, we're friends again, my girlfriend and my ex are friends, and most of all, our BS doesn't get in the way of doing the right things for our kid.
Forgiveness is everything.
But I could never actually go back to being in an intimate relationship with my ex- she hurt me too much for any possibility of that ever again. It's okay, I understand and I forgive her... but I could never put myself in that situation again. Probably never get married again.
And that's okay.
I love it when documented pieces of shit like you think anyone listens to your advice. [Reply]
Originally Posted by rabblerouser:
Forgiving my ex-wife has done wonders for every single relationship in my life. Seriously.
And now, we're friends again, my girlfriend and my ex are friends, and most of all, our BS doesn't get in the way of doing the right things for our kid.
Forgiveness is everything.
But I could never actually go back to being in an intimate relationship with my ex- she hurt me too much for any possibility of that ever again. It's okay, I understand and I forgive her... but I could never put myself in that situation again. Probably never get married again.
And that's okay.
And don't let this event turn your heart to stone.
You're a good guy, not every woman is untrustworthy. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ClevelandBronco:
IMHO, forgiving her is sound advice regardless of whether the relationship is ever repaired. In my experience, forgiveness isn't about letting the offending party off the hook. It's more about my own spiritual, psychological and emotional fitness. It's also a way to claim some control over an uncontrollable situation.
I need to echo this. No matter the outcome, eventually one needs to move on.
Forgiveness allows this. There is no timetable for forgiveness. But often if you don't, it will do more harm to yourself.
My Wife cheated on me. We got divorced and it ate the hell outa me. I was mad and in the long run the anger was hurting me. I forgave her, and moved on. Today we have a great relationship. We are family. Once you have children together, like it or not, you are family. I know because of this past I became a better man.
Wishing you the best. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Arrowhead Nation:
I'm actually going to suggest something that I haven't seen mentioned.
Forgive her
I'm not saying that you guys don't need some counseling, and serious relationship repair, but I know of many couples where the adultery didn't result in divorce. I know that it takes two to tango, but If you really do love her, and your children, then stay and deal with it. Forgiveness isn't about her...it's about you.
And honestly, take a few minutes and think about how powerful the testimony will be on the other side of this. To your future children. To your family. To your friends.
If God forgives us, we can forgive each other.
I have forgiven her.
My son comes first.
Making his mother, whom I love, my enemy will not create anything positive for anyone involved.
We've talked about what needs to be done.
We are getting along and moving things forward.
It's going to be a big change. I've never been away from my son.
I don't know how it will be good for either us. I'm kinda his window to the world.
She has no idea what she's in for with me not around all the time.
I've been cheated on and done some cheating. Doing the cheating always feels worse. Can't imagine the emotions of sharing a kid with someone through that. Take it one moment at a time and you'll get through it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by ThaVirus:
If there's one thing I don't fuck with it's an unfaithful woman
Never. Under any circumstances. I've been chained to my old lady for almost 14 years. If that happened, or I found out it happened 10 fucking years ago, bye Felicia! [Reply]
Some of you know that Lumpy and I divorced a few years ago and we have an autistic son together.
Now then, the last thing he needs is people calling her names and telling him to dump her etc.
This is a decision that he needs to make on his own. He's got to take so much into account here.
What happens to his daughter, his income, property etc.
Will the divorce be nasty or not, can they reconcile? Lawyers are expensive.
The biggest mistake she and I made was not trying hard enough. We've since reconciled and now we live together again and could not be happier. We should've got counseling and taken some time apart. If we had, we would've made it without losing thousands of dollars. [Reply]
