Wanted to post the exact same thing, but didnt want to needlessly make things contentious

But if its me?

Oh yeah

All texts saved, make notes of anything and everything said in phone calls with dates and times etc etc etc
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I will do this, but I honestly don't think it will get nasty

We still care very much about each other.

She's my best friend. She really is.

Shit. This is that part that hurts.

Back to work.
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If you get her to come back. Thats when you will realize you don't want her anymore. She's tainted.
I give it no more then six months, before you wake up and realize
NO WAY IN HELL A DRUG ADDICTED FELON IS RAISING OR LIVING WITH MY SON!

FTR. My X was and still is hot as hell. She's a cross between Bo Derrick & Kate Middleton. With steel blue eyes. Beauty is only skin deep.
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Great to see how you are handling the immediate emotions...you are handling it better than most do.

But I will reiterate what I posted.....get an Attorney and seek out a Counselor. You 2 might do well for a while but times and people change. And even if nothing goes wrong and you remain friends, there will still be moments of friction over who is making the decisions on your son's welfare.

If you both want to remain friends, then spell out responsibilities legally....leave nothing to chance. That way there are no arguments about who handles what.

And I won't even begin to mention all the fun you will have once your child becomes 18....
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I've got nothing too good to say Tribe. I've been on this rock for 49 years, and if there is one constant, it is that cheaters are cheaters forever. You have to be wired a certain way to be able to do that to someone that you love more than yourself.

Yeah, second chances have their place. You know, for stupid kids that steal someone elses shit, or someone that gets busted for smoking dope or something. But cheaters? They are a different kind of fucked up. No remorse unless they get caught. They cheat over and over. Like I said, it's how they are wired. No sense of accountability, and very selfish.

Aside from dealings with your kid, I wouldn't give this bitch the time of day. Now, or ever. if the cooch was on fire, I wouldn't piss on it.
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My internal alarms went off. I asked her what was up....and she told me.
She didn't lie. She was straight with me.

Being a hurt ass bitch is unattractive, no matter how I feel inside.
Making her miserable or feel the pain I feel won't create anything positive.

Hate
Hurt
rage
wrath

All ingredients for a perpetual shit sandwich that everyone has to take a bite of.

Her and her twin sister call me a master manipulator.
Now I know that they are giving me way too much credit as I'm no mastermind.

I've just learned that you can much more easily get what you want with a smile and kindness.

I'm keeping the big picture in view.
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Wait guys, new shit has come to light..
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Quit being a pussy. She dicked you over. Post nudes on the Internet. It's only fair.
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This.
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Yup.
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Looks like Florida has a revenge porn law. I didn't bother to confirm, but, with it being Florida and all, I am assuming Floridians are required to post revenge porn after breakups.
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Remember that is still the mother of your child.

Don't ruin anything for your kid, despite what the resident perverts think is best.
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:-)
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I know this won't be a popular response but FWIW it is okay to hate the bitch and still be a great father to your son. And hate can be healthy. If she had any respect for you IMO she would have never deceived you to the point of you having to catch her with the dude. She should have come to you prior to moving on to a physical relationship with another person. Was the deceit a fall back plan in case it didn't work out with the other guy considering she knew his past history. She sounds like a typical selfish person to me.

I'm not in the camp that it is okay to stray from a relationship if two parties are willing to work it out when the consequences from that infidelity come to light. That is a have your cake and eat it mentality. A mentality that usually does not stand the course of a lifetime required in a healthy marriage. Best advice to give is to move on physically and mentally. Become an advocate of yourself and your son. Do not consider her feelings any longer. And enjoy the rest of your life like a fucking rock star.
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I'm not suggesting that you berate her, hurt her or anyone else, or walk around with rage. I'm simply telling you that she's a cheater, and therefore never to be trusted again. Move on. Find someone that will love you more than their desire to get cock rammed. Someone you can trust. Otherwise, it's always in the back of your mind. You want to be kind to her? Great, go ahead and be kind. But don't think she wouldn't do it again.
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