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I have 2 boys and my now ex cheated on me in a similar fashion. It sucks right now for you. I know. But I promise you life will be a whole better in the long run. Ive been divorced 6 years and am so much happier now than I was then. Focus on your child and yourself. Her wants are completely irrelevent to you anymore.
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That is no good tribe. As many others, I have been there and we ALL have come out on the other side. Will hurt but never think it is the bottom. If you get some weird feelings, make sure to call family and friends. Your life is important to you and your child, even if it isn't to that sorry sack you were with. Keep your head up and you will get hella sympathy lays in the near future. lol
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Sorry to hear it bud. This is certainly a tough deal. The whole ex-boyfriend thing certainly means there's likely some sort of emotional attachment deep down for her and that makes it a bit tougher.

In relationships, there always seems to be that "7 year itch" as they call it. I'm married, we've been together over 10 years. We both went through it. Things settle in, people get complacent, and life is rather boring. It happens. Don't blame yourself though, she made her decision.

I'd want to know more. How was it that she was in contact with him after all this time to begin with? Was it a one night thing? Was it an affair? Does it matter? Most of all, could you forgive her depending on that answer? And with that, would you ever be able to trust her again if you did?

I think taking time apart to find answers is important. You have a child together and that child's long-term welfare will depend on both of you. Figure out how the both of you will move forward from this.

First instinct is to beat the guy within an inch of his life and risk spending 30+ days in the slammer, but that doesn't help your kid. Be strong. You've had your drink.
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Sorry to hear that, I've been there. Just remember that it wouldn't have happened if SHE didn't want it too. Best to cut ties now, because if you forgive her now, she'll know you'll forgive her the next time. And there will be a next time
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And remember, CHEATING IS NOT EVER EVER EVER YOUR FAULT. DO NOT ACCEPT HER BACK OR YOU WILL BE MISERABLE. Every time she looks at her phone or steps out the door you will get a knot in your stomach. Best to let it go.
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Just for the safe side, check with the clinic if you may contact some STD.
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Prayers for you and your family.

No impulse decisions.

Take no advice (even mine), other than to do what is best and works for you and your family.

Always reach for grace.
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This^

1000x this.


Sorry to hear about your fambly troubles, tribe.
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It's tempting to give advise here but only you know the full details involved. I'll just say, be strong, be a man, and be a good father to your child no matter what the relationship between you and your wife.
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Don't do anything that ruins the rest of your life! Nothing worth that no matter how hurt or angry.....:-)

I actually think women are cheating more today then most guys.
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My gender has certainly caught up with the percentage of men that do...last survey I read.
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This sounds harsh, but don't waste your time and energy on thinking about her..guarantee she isn't.

She's the one who has to live with it..You're the one who needs to live without it.

Stay strong, brother.
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Really sorry to hear this BT, I've never been through it so I don't know what advice is best other than that your child will always be more important than your wife. Right now you probably have a lot of standing in the custody situation due to her negligence, keep it that way by acting proper and you will get the most time with your child.

Stay strong bud.
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Not as much as you think....you would be surprised how the courts defer to the Mother unless there are dire circumstances that point to the welfare of the child.

Being unfaithful doesn't always equal immediate custody.
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