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Eleazar 09:07 AM 07-19-2019
America Needs to Rediscover Tact

In our politics, holding back and minimizing pain has given way to rubbing people’s noses in defeat.

By Peggy Noonan
July 18, 2019 6:57 pm ET



I want to kick away from the daily and get to something larger.

We are a nation of just under 330 million. We have a lot of disputes, always have, argument is one of our traditions. To make it all work, to keep this thing going, we have to give each other a little room, a little space. We have so many different thoughts and ways. We have to be easy with each other, not pick on each other all the time.

This requires tact, which sounds sissy and small-time but is not. Tact takes brains and discipline. It’s a form of empathy: You see the other guy is embarrassed or unhappy, and you decide not to make it worse. You hold back from causing unnecessary pain. It is connected to graciousness: You let your foe up easy.

In a great roiling democracy tact isn’t only desirable, it is necessary. We won’t hold together as a nation without it.

And we don’t value it at all. We let it slide down the hole of old habits. Who teaches civic tact now?

What has taken its place in our political culture is a spirit of maximalism—let’s rub their faces in it.

In New York six months ago it wasn’t enough to pass one of the most radical pro-abortion laws in the land; you had to light up the World Trade Center and the Governor Mario M. Cuomo Bridge in pink lights to celebrate. So that even the skyline approves of what you did. You say you do this because you’re happy. You do it to rub the opposition’s faces in it.

Before all that and most famously there was “bake my cake.” You’re not allowed simply to absorb the nation’s changing ways; you have to become part of my wedding even if your faith prohibits this, and if you don’t, I’ll gather my friends and kill your business. Progressives cannot understand what a wound this was to conservative Christians, who were obeying the law but hoped not to be pushed around.


Nike makes a new sneaker they’re unveiling on July 4, and it’s got a Betsy Ross flag on it, but Colin Kaepernick, a bright and eccentric young man, declares that flag a racist symbol because we used to have slavery and now have unresolved racial problems. And Nike says: What Colin says goes, no flag sneaker for you, America! Who’s worse, Mr. Kaepernick, so full of himself that his need to provide moral instruction is never ameliorated by any personal modesty, or the mealy-mouthed weasel-cynic corporate executives who in their play-to-the-demographic, postpatriotic way give worldly success a bad name?

What does it matter? They’re rubbing your face in it.

This week there was a poll on race, and it showed Americans disheartened on the issue. I believe it.

I have been aware of race and of the difficulties of black citizens since I was 7. It was on the news every night—sit-ins at lunch counters, the freedom riders, desegregating the schools. It was clear to a child, clearer perhaps than to many adults, that it was wrong to treat people badly, wrong to not let people vote or get a Coke, wrong to push them around.

Years later a respected journalist, now an editor but previously a Southern reporter, said to me that you couldn’t stand on a hill and look down on the kids and the police dogs and the fire hoses and not know whose side you were on. Then this highly secular man said, with real feeling: “You couldn’t see it and not know whose side Jesus was on.”

Why, more than 50 years later, are Americans feeling blue on this issue?

For many reasons, but one has to do with a growing attitude and assumption. This was all said clearly in a small essay by an author unknown to me on a website a few years ago. I’ve looked for it and can’t find it, but it said what I’d been thinking.

In the past, whether you were racist could be judged by your actions. You held ugly biases, you said or did things that were definitionally discriminatory. The bad news is that you were this way, but the good news is that you could change. You could widen your lens, let some love in, say, think or do better things. You could improve.

And as you did, so would the nation. So there was hope.

Which was pretty wonderful. You could think, “I will help establish full civil rights for all.” You could commit yourself and succeed. You had agency.

Now the idea has taken hold that the charge of racism doesn’t derive from thoughts and actions, from what people say and do, but from who they are. If you are white that accident of birth left you racist, and there’s nothing you can do about it. You’ve got white privilege. You are unconsciously favored, and unconsciously assign disfavor. Either way you’re guilty. No action or word can turn this around.

So change is not possible; improvement will not happen. There’s no way out.


This is demoralizing. America can never become a better place if it isn’t even allowed to think it can.

Who would encourage such thinking? I’d say anyone who doesn’t really want racial progress. And surely what they have in common is an ignorance of the human heart, a tactlessness, and a refusal to look out for the whole.

I think we must end with an affirming flame. It has to do with that hopeless place, our southern border.

Members of Congress often go to detention centers and make it worse. They summon complaints, say people drink from the toilet, call it a concentration camp. All the border police are just good Germans following orders. The illegal aliens are victims, the guards Nazis. That goes over badly in America, which has a heart but doesn’t like being manipulated and is weary of being bullied.

Journalists go and try to explain the plight of the detained migrants, who are in hard circumstances, and who are often portrayed as being put upon by America, which is yet again failing its ideals.

Americans watching know their country is riven by drugs, inequality, lack of social cohesion. They see the migrants and grimly think: Oh good, more unhappy people to join our unhappy people—maybe we can all be unhappy and take drugs together. That will improve things!

But this week on “CBS This Morning,” Norah O’Donnell toured the largest detention facility on the border and talked to a young mother from Venezuela with a 2-year-old son. She told her story. For months at home she’d heard nothing but gunfire. She fled alone with her son, just the two of them on the long trek north. She wept as she talked.

She was a person of modesty and dignity.

She said she had warm food here. They provided Pampers for the baby. Ms. O’Donnell said: But you are sleeping on the floor. Yes, said the mother, “on a mat.”

She showed no resentment, expressed no demand. She was just grateful.

She had tact.

Get her in here, please. We need her kind.



https://www.wsj.com/articles/america...ct-11563490667
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Discuss Thrower 09:11 AM 07-19-2019
Yeah no.


Nobody is buying that you're being genuine here, Cochise. You're the embodiment of just the type of spineless chump who starts groveling at the collective feet of leftists once they frame conservative opinions as racist, homophobic or misogynist.
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Prison Bitch 09:12 AM 07-19-2019
Peggy’s a total idiot, wholly incapable of confronting the emerging (violent) leftist horde that we’ve seen over and over again thru history. They don’t care about her flowery prose of nothingness. They only understand force.


As an aside, her ending nugget was laughably pathetic.
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Eleazar 09:16 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Prison Bitch:
Peggy’s a total idiot, wholly incapable of confronting the emerging (violent) leftist horde that we’ve seen over and over again thru history. They don’t care about her flowery prose of nothingness. They only understand force.


As an aside, her ending nugget was laughably pathetic.
I knew you'd be triggered within minutes by the idea that a non-white person could be virtuous. :-)
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Loneiguana 09:19 AM 07-19-2019
You guys labelled "tact" and "civility" political correctness and decided it was bad.

/seriously, bringing up someone refusing to do business because gay as in example.... LOL
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Prison Bitch 09:22 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Eleazar:
I knew you'd be triggered within minutes by the idea that a non-white person could be virtuous. :-)
Pegstur is the perfect columnist for a phony such as yourself.
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Eleazar 09:28 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Prison Bitch:
Pegstur is the perfect columnist for a phony such as yourself.
I know, too many big words for you Trumpers, like George Will. :-)
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Prison Bitch 09:38 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower:
Yeah no.


Nobody is buying that you're being genuine here, Cochise. You're the embodiment of just the type of spineless chump who starts groveling at the collective feet of leftists once they frame conservative opinions as racist, homophobic or misogynist.
He likes her because she tried to pull the same act he did: cheerlead the Iraq War, then blame the Democrats for why it failed so badly.
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JohnnyHammersticks 09:48 AM 07-19-2019
America needed to rediscover its balls.

Thankfully, that appears to be happening.
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Pogue 09:50 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Eleazar:
I know, too many big words for you Trumpers, like George Will. :-)
Everyday Joe Schmoe’s aren’t their intended audience anyway. Both of them write to impress the establishment and other media types in NYC/D.C. etc. it’s the same thing with CNN, MSNBC, abcnews etc.

They are phonies, fake and only care about appearances, staying in the club and enjoy cocktail parties with other phony assholes.
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Prison Bitch 10:04 AM 07-19-2019
When Obama took office, she wrote a column declaring the Wars as his. I’m not even joking. She mentioned him like a dozen times and didn’t mention Bushman even once. Needless to say, there was a lot of outrage at her ungodly dishonesty over that.
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Eleazar 10:28 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Pogue:
Everyday Joe Schmoe’s aren’t their intended audience anyway. Both of them write to impress the establishment and other media types in NYC/D.C. etc. it’s the same thing with CNN, MSNBC, abcnews etc.

They are phonies, fake and only care about appearances, staying in the club and enjoy cocktail parties with other phony assholes.
There are plenty of people who care about reading thoughtful articles that think deeply about the issues.

Of course, it's more popular at the moment to read poorly worded tweets and bark on command, but there are still plenty of people who enjoy thinking.
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Taco John 10:29 AM 07-19-2019
We will. As soon as everybody is awake the child sex trafficking cult that rules us, things will start to get a lot more friendly again.
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Iowanian 10:39 AM 07-19-2019
I agree.

When I was a kid, my dad had a sign over his desk in his home office that I didn't fully understand until I was much older. Now, it makes so much sense.

It said

"Tact: The ability to tell a man to go to hell, and make him feel happy about the trip"
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Prison Bitch 10:46 AM 07-19-2019
Originally Posted by Iowanian:
I agree.

When I was a kid, my dad had a sign over his desk in his home office that I didn't fully understand until I was much older. Now, it makes so much sense.

It said

"Tact: The ability to tell a man to go to hell, and make him feel happy about the trip"

You still don’t understand it apparently. Your PM to me last week:


7/11/19 5:04pm “F*** off asshole”
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