Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP:
They're a little smarter than men in that more of them realize that looks fade but personality and character lasts forever.
Women are wired to seek protection and stability whereas men are looking for a physical specimen to pass on genes. This isn't to the exclusion of all else, but it's a jumping off point. [Reply]
You just have to come to a time when you're okay with you. You don't have to have a woman to complete you. People don't complete people, they compliment them. Once you're okay with who you are, you'll be much happier.
This is a great bit of advice. Everyone should use this. rep! [Reply]
Originally Posted by Buck:
That was out of left field.
How about you just let me be happy that my weight loss is resulting in quantifiable moments of happiness.
Ice been fat all my life and have found girls who don't mind fat guys, but a lot do mind, and I don't have a problem with that.
Luke Hochevar just pitched a CG shutout last night. It's great if he's having a moment of happiness because of it, but that isn't enough to make him a better pitcher. Now if that gives him confidence in his own ability to get major league hitters out, maybe he can reach his potential. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Saul Good:
Women are wired to seek protection and stability whereas men are looking for a physical specimen to pass on genes. This isn't to the exclusion of all else, but it's a jumping off point.
And guys think that women think of "protection and stability" as "muscles and money". That is so not the case (at least not always). And women think that men think of looks as tits, ass, and what society thinks is perfection, which, right now anyway, means no fat. I'm not a guy, so I can't disclaim that line of thought...lol.
I just had a friend post one of those annoying pictures with quotes on them on facebook. "When you like a guy, do nothing about it and expect him to magically know and make the first move. Women's logic." To which I replied, "Back in the day, women were taught not to chase. My mother was one of these people, and I constantly heard, 'Don't chase boys. If they like you, they'll chase you.' If you like a girl, do you have to wait for a sign from her before pursuing her?"
Dating is all about games. Who should make the first move? Does a girl have to let a guy know she's interested before he'll ask her out? As a girl, how do you do that without coming on too strong? If a guy doesn't ask you out, is it because he's not interested or because you didn't send him the right signals? And heaven forbid you send signals to someone who's not interested, thus looking like a complete moron or feeling rejected.
Originally Posted by luv:
If you like a girl, do you have to wait for a sign from her before pursuing her?"
Dating is all about games. Who should make the first move? Does a girl have to let a guy know she's interested before he'll ask her out? As a girl, how do you do that without coming on too strong? If a guy doesn't ask you out, is it because he's not interested or because you didn't send him the right signals? And heaven forbid you send signals to someone who's not interested, thus looking like a complete moron or feeling rejected.
Ugh!
There are no right or wrong answers. All guys/girls are different and some guys/girls have to work harder than others.
Dating can be all about games, but it isn't always and, again, that depends upon the individual(s) involved. [Reply]
Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP:
There are no right or wrong answers. All guys/girls are different and some guys/girls have to work harder than others.
Dating can be all about games, but it isn't always and, again, that depends upon the individual(s) involved.
I'm of the opinion that it shouldn't be that hard. Of course, that is probably why I'm still single. Well, and I'm fat...lol. At least I'm able to fix that, though. [Reply]
You just have to come to a time when you're okay with you. You don't have to have a woman to complete you. People don't complete people, they compliment them. Once you're okay with who you are, you'll be much happier.
That is also inaccurate. We are very social creatures. No one is strong enough to tackle all of life's challenges by themselves and still be happy. [Reply]
Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP:
They're a little smarter than men in that more of them realize that looks fade but personality and character lasts forever.
Originally Posted by Saulbadguy:
That is also inaccurate. We are very social creatures. No one is strong enough to tackle all of life's challenges by themselves and still be happy.
Not sure I agree with all of this. I believe happiness comes from within. Not from others. Not from tangible objects. Once an individual is happy then other people, things, experiences can enhance that happiness. [Reply]
Originally Posted by DaKCMan AP:
Not sure I agree with all of this. I believe happiness comes from within. Not from others. Not from tangible objects. Once an individual is happy then other people, things, experiences can enhance that happiness.
I'm just saying you can't have one without the other. Happiness does come from within, but I don't think you can really achieve that without other people helping you. By "helping" I just mean the people you interact with on a daily basis, mainly friends and family. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Saulbadguy:
I'm just saying you can't have one without the other. Happiness does come from within, but I don't think you can really achieve that without other people helping you. By "helping" I just mean the people you interact with on a daily basis, mainly friends and family.
Ok. I thought you meant a partner. I can agree that social/familial relationships are important to obtaining happiness. I still maintain that another individual can't make you happy. [Reply]