**Im out of the loop & friends I think are always afraid to say
Married to what I thought was love of my life 20 plus years but ended badly.
Will that screw up all other relationships ?
Brutal honesty always of course .....
From the sound of it, no, you shouldn’t. I think by the time you reach 50 and have been married 20 years once before you should know the answer yourself already. You probably do but don’t want to admit it to yourself. If you do go ahead with it you should at least have a pre-nup so you don’t get taken to the cleaners a second time. Unless by “ended badly” you mean your ex is buried in a Rubbermaid tub under the crawspace of your house, in which case you probably have bigger problems than deciding whether or not you should get remarried. [Reply]
I'm a lawyer. I do divorces. I have seen a lot of things.
Unless you have some moral qualm about cohabiting (such as if you believe it is a sin to live with someone without marrying them), I cannot think of any reason why you would choose marriage. Do you love her? Do you want to spend your life with her? Great! No reason you can't cohabit (and skip the marriage part). [Reply]
Originally Posted by blackkatesmiranda:
Anyone with experience taking plunge again ?
It looks like the consensus is Do not !
I've done hundreds of divorces, including some repeat customers coming to me for their 2nd divorce.
As I said earlier, unless you have some moral issues with cohabiting, there is absolutely no reason to choose marriage over that.
I could tell you some horror stories about people getting reamed in divorces... and the really bad part is many times they know they are getting screwed over, but they just don't care because they want out so badly that they are happy to give away a lot more than they have to in order to walk away. [Reply]
Out of curiosity, there seems to a consensus of never getting married again. Why is that? I'm 37 and have spent my entire adulthood to being very successful and more than financially stable. I recently got out of a relationship (note: got dumped, but friends think I dodged a bullet), but have always wanted to get married.
What is the difference between fantasy versus reality? [Reply]
Originally Posted by Marco Polo:
Out of curiosity, there seems to a consensus of never getting married again. Why is that? I'm 37 and have spent my entire adulthood to being very successful and more than financially stable. I recently got out of a relationship (note: got dumped, but friends think I dodged a bullet), but have always wanted to get married.
What is the difference between fantasy versus reality?