Originally Posted by eDave:
She is absolutely right. To me though, if you want to fuck, have an emotional affair with, etc. someone else, break up with me first.
I'd rather a breakup, with reasons given, than being cheated on. Shit hurts man.
Ton's of reasons one would cheat. I get that.
You are right, I'm still Gonna Fuck a mother fucker up. Eeeerrrrrrrday.
One of these days you will find out why, lol [Reply]
I think the Internet and forums like this are fine for releasing frustrations and venting... but counseling on sensitive issues like this, when the details are unknown... not healthy.
I wish the guy the best for what he's going through, but take little of what's said here to heart, outside of the best wishes type stuff. Only you and your wife/significant other (didn't read to see if you're married, just making the assumption) know what's best for you here, if it's meant to be, you can work through it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mile High Mania:
I think the Internet and forums like this are fine for releasing frustrations and venting... but counseling on sensitive issues like this, when the details are unknown... not healthy.
I wish the guy the best for what he's going through, but take little of what's said here to heart, outside of the best wishes type stuff. Only you and your wife/significant other (didn't read to see if you're married, just making the assumption) know what's best for you here, if it's meant to be, you can work through it.
Sound advice.
Everyone's is regarding their reference point for what inspired it in them.
Information is only as valuable as how you decide to use it..or not use it. [Reply]
The best advise I received was to feel your pain and let it run it's course (but not too long). Let it happen. Don't try and cover or suppress it. Deal with it how YOU deal with it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by eDave:
The best advise I received was to feel your pain and let it run it's course (but not too long). Let it happen. Don't try and cover or suppress it. Deal with it how YOU deal with it.
This...and move forward and do things that make you happy and continue with that. Heartbreak sucks...esp when you believe you are with the one. Trust me it gets better! [Reply]
I'm a huge advocate of 2nd chances. Even for this guy.
If he has his shit together and she wants to be with him. I think I'll actually be happy for her.
But taking on the full brunt of my son's needs is going to make her have a nervous breakdown.
I'm afraid if I'm too nice she's gonna be calling me for help non-stop. And that will piss me off.
She has ALWAYS put her needs education/ career ahead of mine, and I have always been there to handle the weight of the world.
Originally Posted by beach tribe:
Just to be clear.
I'm a huge advocate of 2nd chances. Even for this guy.
If he has his shit together and she wants to be with him. I think I'll actually be happy for her.
But taking on the full brunt of my son's needs is going to make her have a nervous breakdown.
I'm afraid if I'm too nice she's gonna be calling me for help non-stop. And that will piss me off.
She has ALWAYS put her needs education/ career ahead of mine, and I have always been there to handle the weight of the world.
Hope he's gotta strong back.
The silver lining here is that you get to focus on your kid 100%. And that's a good thing. You can dump all the love and affection and attention you can on them without worrying about the secondary affects of sharing that with someone else.
Take all you can from that. It makes you better and your kid better.
I wouldn't worry too much about what "they" do. Just focus on your kid.
And she'll be calling you non-stop because that's what she's come to expect. Make sure that she's responsible for her parenting time, but take every chance to be with your kid that you can. You don't ever get that time or opportunity back and they are what is important now, not you (or moreso anyway).
And, for the record, most nurses are fucking bat shit crazy. One has the tendency to think "Oh, the medical field...blah, blah, blah." Nope. Completely fucking insane as a group. [Reply]
It's important to note that being honest to a group of good dudes helps the good dudes as well. I know lots of times life is just ho hum, but someone actually trying to do the right thing, trying to give a fuck, brings out inspiration in me. It also reflects on times when I was out on the grind and shit was fucked up. Good on you man. [Reply]
If & when you decide you want custody of your son.
,......................and you will
You will destroy her in a court room. No judge is gonna look at her move to be with a crack head prison rat as a positive move for your son.
Again...Your posts today with the X are quite similar to what I went through ten years ago. I have custody and the bitch pays me $600.00 a month [Reply]
Originally Posted by LiveSteam:
Jesus. Its like reading my Bio with my X
If & when you decide you want custody of your son.
,......................and you will
You will destroy her in a court room. No judge is gonna look at her move to be with a crack head prison rat as a positive move for your son.
Again...Your posts today with the X are quite similar to what I went through ten years ago. I have custody and the bitch pays me $600.00 a month
Just don't do anything stupid... don't 'leave trails' that can be used against you. Take the high road, keep details of everything, stay positive and do the right thing. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Mile High Mania:
Just don't do anything stupid... don't 'leave trails' that can be used against you. Take the high road, keep details of everything, stay positive and do the right thing.
Yes keeping your mouth shut and letting your attorney do his or her job is of the up most importants.
Edit/// I did keep notes. I wrote everything down on paper. To this day those notes are locked up in my gun vault [Reply]