Nope, I was a youngster and we've only been married 47. To your other rude comment, I am a charming, well-mannered gentleman that's a caring, thoughtful lover. So there!! :-)
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Who cares? You have zero shot wth a good looking 40-something, should you divorce your current hag. That was the point.
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People who can't afford to get divorced. :-):-):-):-) When I got divorced my ex stipulated that her costs got paid by me, (including the PI he had following me), then shared equally, and finally she ate all her costs and all mutual (liquidation) costs. It got kinda pissy during the 19 months.:-):-):-) As I recall, my lawyer told me the cost of both parties lawyers were negotiated into many settlements, many times with the breadwinner paying the brunt of the costs. He said, having one atty is about the same as a do it yourself divorce kit you get in the mail:-):-)

I don't know about Kansas as I have lived in JO CO, owned property there, but never was married or divorced when living there. But I am sure, that today in Kansas, unlike years ago, a prenup is a simple matter to do.

Realtors will tell you not to use discount brokers, lawyers advise not to use on line services, and insurance agents tell you not to deal direct. but times have changed and on-line law is the same as sitting down with a lawyer, at least for me it is. I talk with a MO lawyer or an IN or AZ lawyer depending on my needs. I've saved thousands and never had an issue. If you are talking about using a document farm, that's different. I am totally against that as anything other than to show you what a document looks like, not contains. I guess they would do fine to protect the ownership rights to your 55 Vette, but there will always be the issue as to whom the new engine you both paid for belongs.:-):-)

If you want to write a "pig farmer" prenup you're probably going to need to just keep the atty. on retainer, but for most a prenup, either on line or in person, is not complicated, if it is you need to get more than a basic prenup, you need asset management services.

Trusts, prenups, and cohabitation agreements, are great things, but all can be made more complicated than what they are worth. If the OP has a house, retirement or other financial interments, as major assets then IMHO he can do it on line. If he/they still aren't warm and fuzzy about it they can sit down with you. At least they will have 95% of the work done before they get there. :-):-)

Just for thought: I have a guy in one of my car clubs who does divorce asset retention law. Lawyers send clients to him to find ways to maximize the money going to each party and reduce costs of sales of assets, penalties, and taxes. It's a niche that is always good for a funny story.
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At least one of you can still get it up...:-):-):-):-):-)
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Actually, you're making my point for me. Prenups--assuming that there are not many assets involved--are fairly simple. Simple enough that you can probably get a lawyer to do one for a couple hundred.

You may feel differently, but I would always go with a lawyer for a couple hundred over an online kit for, what? $50? $60? To me, the peace of mind that I get is worth the extra cash.

In the past, I have paid for a lawyer (who specialized in a different area than I do) rather than try to do something myself. And I *am* a lawyer. Sometimes the peace of mind is worth the extra money.

And, as I noted, I'm not trying to drum up business in this thread. I don't even do prenups. I'm just giving my take on remarriage, as I have extensive experience in the area of divorce. I know there are couple other lawyers on the board, but I'm not aware of any other divorce attorneys. So I felt qualified to offer the OP my observations, based on a great deal of experience.
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We all can't be Mick Jagger:-):-):-):-):-):-)



70 year old guys wth your looks and demeanor, not to mention tiny hands, certainly are't getting the young ones unless they are paying for the privileged.

Interesting where you found that chart:

In response to:

Originally Posted by :
Dear Mona,

What is the average age difference among couples? My partner and I are 28 years apart, so I’m sure we’re an outlier, but by how much? And is it different between heterosexual and homosexual couples (we fall into the latter)?

Thanks,

Seth, 32, Dallas

Shouldn't you be scraping the frost of your 70 YO wifey's broom about now?


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The avg age gap is only 2.3 years. Less than 5% are 10+ years, and almost zero are 20+. I feel badly I'm slapping your face with facts and wrecking your delusion. But facts are facts.
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I am 72, divorced twice and have been dating a beautiful 37 year old for 2 years.
She wants to marry, no way. Besides my sons would kill me. Not to minimize the pain caused by my two exes, but rooting for the Chiefs since 1964 has caused similar grief.
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Liar^
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I think we both agree on the idea that if you want a prenup (protection of your assets before marriage) you should have one. I have a co-habitation agreement which is kinda the same but totally different with the law if I were to die. It just keeps matters out of court instead of guiding the judges decisions.

You just don't understand that when I said $850 that was what my attorney told me he charges I would assume that to include: Initial consultation, requesting and review of requested documents and financial statements, drawing up a rough draft and and mailing it, a phone or office consultation, amending and drawing up the actual document. preparing or attaching financial documentation, submitting to second parties counsel for approval, amending as needed, submitting for approval again, getting the documents signed, notarized, and filed with the county all before the wedding.... For a few hundred dollars? How many few? About eight? :-):-):-):-):-)
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I do not doubt that your lawyer said $850, but I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on what a prenup **should** cost. While I do not do prenups, I personally know a number of lawyers who do. A simple prenup (with no significant assets) takes about 30 minutes, and most lawyers charge around $300 to $400 per hour.

I'm sure that some can inflate that to a few hours, but many small-firm attorneys are hungry for work and are not out there trying to pad the bill. They know that having a happy client (who will tell others) is more important than bleeding every last cent out of the poor soul who needs their services.
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Look Bitch

I can read, decipher charts, and analyze data. I just thought where you gathered your data is interesting...Were you troubled being called a "boy toy" by "Bruiser"( because of the age difference?

I never said your data from 31K straight couples sponsored by the "Bureau of Labor Statistics" and conducted by the "U.S. Census Bureau." were non-conclusive. Even if the data is gathered monthly and that data is 4 years old:-):-):-)

I said that we all can't be Mick Jagger hell, even though I settled for a gal only 10 years younger does that still make me a unicorn?
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Asian girl?
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If a 37 yr old is even REMOTELY attractive, fit, and emotionally stable, she will have endless suitors asking her out. Endless. Everywhere she goes pretty much.


None go for droopy-balls, flabby gut, misshapen ass cheeks, nostril hair, viagra-dependent , prostrate problem, low-energy 72 year old grandpas
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