**Im out of the loop & friends I think are always afraid to say
Married to what I thought was love of my life 20 plus years but ended badly.
Will that screw up all other relationships ?
Brutal honesty always of course .....
You're 50. Do what makes you happy. If it's marriage that makes you happy, do it. If it's just being in a relationship with her that makes you happy, meh, why push it into marriage? JMHO [Reply]
Originally Posted by ChiTown:
You're 50. Do what makes you happy. If it's marriage that makes you happy, do it. If it's just being in a relationship with her that makes you happy, meh, why push it into marriage? JMHO
^this^
as for me, i'm thinking i've been married around 38years. if and when it ever ends, that's it. no more. geeze, i hate to think of trying to get someone else to wash my underwear.
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Originally Posted by IowaHawkeyeChief:
It's pretty simple to me... I have been married for 27 years, good time and bad, however, the hardest time was menopause. It was a rough 3-4 years and was like satan came to the house on a daily basis. It is way better almost 2 years out. I am about a year older than you, if I was single, knowing what I know now, I would marry someone in their early 30's or someone who is already through menopause. I definitely wouldn't marry someone in their mid-40' about ready to go through this... I know you can't control who you love, but it is a hard a wierd time and lots of couples don't make it through this stage.
Sex completely stopped when my GF went into menopause. For a long time. And we are done now. Gotta have that physical relationship or it will fail. Guaranteed. [Reply]
I guess you can put me in the crowd that thinks once is enough. Still married to the high school sweetheart. If that ever goes south, I'm out of the game. Well I think that way now, I guess we would see if I looked at it different if that time came.
I can't imagine willfully subjecting myself to TWO women to bitch at me, even if at separate times :-) . And if times got tough sexually, I'd just buy a porn and pull the shades down :-) [Reply]
Originally Posted by Graystoke:
States that observe Common Law.
•Alabama.
•Colorado.
•District of Columbia.
•Georgia (if created before 1/1/97)
•Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
•Iowa.
•Kansas.
•Montana.
Originally Posted by ChiTown:
You're 50. Do what makes you happy. If it's marriage that makes you happy, do it. If it's just being in a relationship with her that makes you happy, meh, why push it into marriage? JMHO
+1 Your gut will tell you what's best for you. If you want to be together, then be together. [Reply]
Marriage and relationships are all about work. If you marry somebody not expecting to have to work at it, then you're doing it wrong. If you expect that she'll cook, clean, and let you go fishing every weekend until the end, make sure she knows that up FRONT and that those things aren't suddenly going to change, and that she needs to set those same expectations for you.
If that works for the two of you then mazle tov. [Reply]
