From what I have observed, when a marriage begins to sour, it is very common for one spouse to become very demanding. Have you worked hard to build up a good financial nest egg? Guess what? You're gonna give her half of whatever you acquire after the wedding day (and possibly a good chunk of what you brought into the marriage) if things go south.

Of course, there are exceptions to that, but chances are very good that by the time it all falls apart (if it comes to that) you'll be happy to give up half just to escape the arrangement. I see that all the time: people who could probably get a better deal settling for giving up half just to end it all.

From what I have seen, it's not that marriage itself is such a bad deal, it's that if it ever falls apart then you're gonna get screwed.

And you cannot possibly predict whether it will fall apart... nobody gets married thinking "This is only going to last 5 years, then I'm getting a divorce." Everyone thinks that they will be the exception, that their marriage will be one that makes it. Then they get hammered in the divorce.

From what I have seen, it's better to just cohabit unless you have some moral/ethical reasons to avoid that.
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Has to be a trolling....
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Thanks for sharing! That said, are you married?
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I am. But I'm well aware that it is a terrible arrangement, financially speaking.

I fall into the class of people who have some moral issues with cohabiting, which is why I stated that marriage is something you should not do *unless* you have some moral/ethical issues with just living together.

Since most people in this day and age don't have an issue with that, in my opinion, most people should not marry.
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Seriously what does your inner self say?
Are you hesitant? IF SO NO.
Is she demanding it? THEN NO.
Are you going to be haunted by your previous marriage? THEN NO.

I got remarried at 51. Glad I did. However I was all in and there was absolutely no doubt.
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Im not even married once, but in a LTR with the same woman for 7 years now..

If something happens, im done with dating/marriage etc. That shit is a hassle!

Do yourself a favor and grow old in relative peace~
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It's pretty simple to me... I have been married for 27 years, good time and bad, however, the hardest time was menopause. It was a rough 3-4 years and was like satan came to the house on a daily basis. It is way better almost 2 years out. I am about a year older than you, if I was single, knowing what I know now, I would marry someone in their early 30's or someone who is already through menopause. I definitely wouldn't marry someone in their mid-40' about ready to go through this... I know you can't control who you love, but it is a hard a wierd time and lots of couples don't make it through this stage.
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If shes a RICH SUPERMODEL thats a nymphomaniac. Get married

Anything less don't do it.
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So why are you asking us? We don't know you or your potential wife. We don't know what's going on with it all. Only you do.

I will say that if you have to ask and you aren't sure, then don't.
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Isn't there something with if you co-habitate for awhile they can still take you for your shit since its like assumed marriage or something? You share the bills etc so they get something. I think that happened to my cousin.
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States that observe Common Law.
•Alabama.
•Colorado.
•District of Columbia.
•Georgia (if created before 1/1/97)
•Idaho (if created before 1/1/96)
•Iowa.
•Kansas.
•Montana.
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Need pics and her net worth before I can answer.
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Don't know if it varies from state to state, but the magic number here is 7.

Have a friend (both of them actually) where they lived together for more than that time. Difference was, he had everything in his name. He paid all of the household bills, so when it was time for her to leave she had no equity in anything household wise. So she could claim nothing.
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Yea, I think that's what got my cousin, she had he name on the water bill or something.
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