I would strongly suggest a prenup. They don't cost that much. Most lawyers will do one for a couple hundred bucks.

You could ask your (soon to be?) spouse to split the cost with you. Just point out that it protects both of you in the event that the unknown happens.

I do suggest going to a lawyer as opposed to downloading a form from a website. Reason being, if there is a mistake somewhere, it's much easier to seek compensation from the lawyer who practices in your state than it would be to get it from some website based in California or wherever.
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You are in a great position here. My 1st wife was a Dr but we were kids when we got married. At your age, it's a green light.

Doesn't necessarily matter that she makes more but since she does, it gives you the freedom to pursue other career paths while she earns. That's huge. I could have changed multiple times but didn't have that bridge money to pursue it.

Go for it.
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I've heard of this backfiring. A lawyer works for their client, even if someone else pays half the tab. She could end up paying half to end up with a deal that still favors him (or vice versa if they use her attorney)
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If you're 70, there's virtually zero chance any decent looking lady in her 40s would even look at you let alone have a relationship. Truth hurts doesn't it?
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Sure. So they use his attorney, and she helps to pay. Win/win for him.

If she's really concerned, she can pay another attorney $100 to review it. I suppose he'd have to help pay that fee, but all in all a prenup is not very expensive (especially if, like here, there are not that many assets to begin with).
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Why go back to the pit of misery again?
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Look, I didn't nor would I suggest a form but now you request a draft, you amend and add what you want until it's what you want and they furnish you with all you need to make it legal and binding. I have been doing real estate contracts this way forever.

You do know that a lawyers jury of his peers are lawyers. Right? :-):-):-):-):-)
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Sure, a draft (that you then tweak) is different than a one-size-fits-all (supposedly) form. Then again, tweaking it would possibly lead to losing the ability to collect from the lawyer in the event of a mistake.

Lawyers carry malpractice insurance for a reason. It's easier to collect from an in-state lawyer than from an out-of-state business.

Given that a prenup will only cost a couple hundred bucks, it's just safer to pay a lawyer to do it. And I'm not stumping for business here--nobody here knows my real name, and I don't do prenups anyways. I'm just stating my observations based on 10+ years as a practicing attorney.
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Yosof has been bent over one too many times to be able to comprehend that sharing a lawyer is right up there in the top 10 stupid list. I bet when he bought a house he used the Realtors contract too....Written to protect, the Realtor.
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I missed the part where your lawyer quoted you $850. Unless you have significant assets, that is waaaay overpriced. And if you *do* have significant assets, then it's worth every penny of that $850 to make sure the prenup is done correctly.
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I never advocated sharing a lawyer. I said share the costs. I do divorces all the time where both parties pay a portion of my fee. And I make sure the parties sign documents stating that they understand I am only acting as the attorney for one of them.
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My attorney doesn't let you through the door for $100 dollars.....
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A simple prenup (with minimal assets involved) is not a complex document. I've seen lots of them. There are many attorneys out there who would review a simple document like that for a reasonable price.
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I'm not that old, Oldman is. and yes there are lots of guys in their 70's who have wives, live in's, or GF's who are in their 40's. My next door neighbor is just that person. No bullshit, no kids, not only good looking, but smart and personable.

Gives me hope to know it could happen if something went south in my relationship. My SO is 10 younger than me and she's a more than "descent" looking. In your case, how's bruiser doing?
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Liar.

70 males aren't getting 45 females. Total lie.

The avg age gap in America is only 2.3 years:

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