This chick is fucking with your head.
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And humor isn't yours, I take it...
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OK.

She's not. It doesn't matter. Its really not feasible, unfortunately. The fact that an actual girl that I would consider having a relationship with (not just a bar random) said this stuff makes me feel better about myself.
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Why were you not feeling good about yourself?
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I used to be fat as fuck.
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I went through a time when I thought, "What if losing weight doesn't help? What if I'm just ugly and my excuse of not dating due to being fat was just something I told myself?"

You just have to come to a time when you're okay with you. You don't have to have a woman to complete you. People don't complete people, they compliment them. Once you're okay with who you are, you'll be much happier.
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She may not be intentionally doing it to fuck with you, but there's a reason that she chose to make that comment when she was 3000 miles away. At least she did, though. That's a start.

You remind me of one of my best friends. He was always a great guy. He was extremely smart, funny, nice, a talented musician, had a great job, wanted to settle down and have a family, etc. etc. etc. However, he was 300+ pounds and never got the girls he wanted.

He lacked confidence and was convinced he was going to die alone, and he was convinced that his weight was the problem. So he lost 75 pounds or so and expected that to make everything better, but it didn't. I had to have a heart to heart with him and explain that the weight loss was only helpful to the extent that he had more confidence in himself. Women crave confidence. Hell, even fake confidence will get you by for a while until you have enough success to gain actual, genuine confidence.

A year and a half later, he's dating a chick that would have been WAY out of his league in his mind before; very good looking, smart, fun, cool, makes great money, and is totally into him. Now, she wants to get married, and all is good.

I don't know if you have a future with this broad or not. If nothing else, hopefully it makes you realize that there are women out there who are interested in what you have to offer. Don't fall into the self-sabotaging trap of thinking that she is the only worthwhile female who would ever want to be with you.
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Most people don't want to date fat people.

Its hardwired in our brains.
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Why are you losing weight?
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So i don't die when I'm 40.

Its nice yo be complimented by someone saying that you're pretty after you have put in 6 months of hard work and dedication to try to improve yourself. Not sure where we are differing here.
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We're not. Just making sure that you're losing weight for you, and not in order to try to get a woman. And yes, being complimented like that must be nice.
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I'm not, but I don't have a problem with anyone who uses that as motivation. Our only purpose is to procreate, after all.
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Most people don't want to date short people, or broke people, or bald people, or people with crooked teeth, etc., either. What you have to realize is that not all "faults" are deal breakers. In fact, very few are.

In fact, I'm willing to bet that if you posted pictures of this chick in the "would you" thread that some people would say yes while others picked her apart.

So what? She's not perfect. She's not even close. Yet the positive things about her are enough that you look beyond them. Hell, you might not even notice them. (People are funny that way.) Girls tend to be very willing to look beyond physical flaws if the other positives are there.
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They're a little smarter than men in that more of them realize that looks fade but personality and character lasts forever.
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