Originally Posted by Pittsie:
So, I meet this cool chick at a Christmas party weekend before last. Despite also hitting on the host's sister and, as she may or may not have been informed, wrecking a relationship last month in spectacular fashion, I somehow made a good impression. Probably thanks to the jello shots.
Anyway, I ask her for drinks last night and get this reply (in relevant part):
"I just started dating someone... So yes, I would like to hang out again but also no because that might be kind of trashy on my part. Does that answer make sense?! haha probably not at all!"
As much as I'd like to encourage "trashy" behavior, it's probably not the right call. Something more like inviting her out with a group of friends. Thoughts?
Just ask her again like nothing happened. (Basically ignore her first response)
She wants to say yes. If you invite her out with friends it goes right to friend-zone.
Originally Posted by luv:
She told you she just started seeing someone, so yes and no? Sounds a little mixed up in the head. Are we talking a one night stand, or you think this is someone you might be interested in?
The latter. I'd characterize it as more of an honest answer than mixed up, but reasonable minds may disagree. [Reply]
Originally Posted by luv:
She told you she just started seeing someone, so yes and no? Sounds a little mixed up in the head. Are we talking a one night stand, or you think this is someone you might be interested in?
She wants to keep him on the line in case the new relationship doesn't work out. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Pittsie:
The latter. I'd characterize it as more of an honest answer than mixed up, but reasonable minds may disagree.
Well, our opinions on that don't really matter, as we don't know her. If you're interested, ask her out again. If she just started seeing this guy, then it's not like she's in a committed relationship. Unless by saying "just started seeing" she means "just started seeing exclusively." [Reply]
Originally Posted by Pittsie:
So, I meet this cool chick at a Christmas party weekend before last. Despite also hitting on the host's sister and, as she may or may not have been informed, wrecking a relationship last month in spectacular fashion, I somehow made a good impression. Probably thanks to the jello shots.
Anyway, I ask her for drinks last night and get this reply (in relevant part):
"I just started dating someone... So yes, I would like to hang out again but also no because that might be kind of trashy on my part. Does that answer make sense?! haha probably not at all!"
As much as I'd like to encourage "trashy" behavior, it's probably not the right call. Something more like inviting her out with a group of friends. Thoughts?
Nothing wrong with it, if you like her, just go for it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Pittsie:
So, I meet this cool chick at a Christmas party weekend before last. Despite also hitting on the host's sister and, as she may or may not have been informed, wrecking a relationship last month in spectacular fashion, I somehow made a good impression. Probably thanks to the jello shots.
Anyway, I ask her for drinks last night and get this reply (in relevant part):
"I just started dating someone... So yes, I would like to hang out again but also no because that might be kind of trashy on my part. Does that answer make sense?! haha probably not at all!"
As much as I'd like to encourage "trashy" behavior, it's probably not the right call. Something more like inviting her out with a group of friends. Thoughts?
One of two things:
1. She doesn't want to be exclusive.
2. She likes you and is willing to give you a chance to win, over the other guy. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Pittsie:
So, I meet this cool chick at a Christmas party weekend before last. Despite also hitting on the host's sister and, as she may or may not have been informed, wrecking a relationship last month in spectacular fashion, I somehow made a good impression. Probably thanks to the jello shots.
Anyway, I ask her for drinks last night and get this reply (in relevant part):
"I just started dating someone... So yes, I would like to hang out again but also no because that might be kind of trashy on my part. Does that answer make sense?! haha probably not at all!"
As much as I'd like to encourage "trashy" behavior, it's probably not the right call. Something more like inviting her out with a group of friends. Thoughts?
Pass on it. Let her get back to you. Though you may already be in the friends column. [Reply]
