So I have an uncomfortable question to ask- I have a trashy co-worker who's a huge loud mouth bitch. She tells the whole office her business. Usually I just ignore it because I don't care and it's none of my business.
Lately she's been talking about some obnoxious fucked up shit. She's talked about how she and her bf drive with her kids in the car after they've been drinking "but aren't to the point of being fucked up" pretty stupid but whatever. Anyway she shares some of the most vile disturbing shit the other day about how she caught her nephew doing sexual stuff with her daughter like finger in the vagina.
I don't want to go to HR about it because it will just get me in trouble. Would I be out of line to report it to CPS? This lady sounds like she has no business having children. [Reply]
I get where Katipan is coming from. To know about a crime against a child and to not know if you should do something about it, and having to come to CP for advice on what to do, is pretty gutless. I mean, c'mon man.
However, I do agree that filing a police report probably wouldn't do much good. Police are going to ask for evidence of a crime being committed. The only time I would call the police over CPS would be if you know something is currently happening in the home at the time of the call. They'll respond to an actual crime vs. "I heard someone say". Just makes sense that hearsay should be reported to the investigating authority. If they see evidence of a crime, they'll get the proper authorities involved.
Cut Katipan some slack. It's not a bad thing to go into "mama bear" mode and want to see action. Again, I do agree that calling Billay out over his morals and ethics (and possible attempt to just get attention) was a needed slap in the face. Just grow a pair and do what needs to be done. [Reply]
The sexual abuse thing was apparently between two 10 year olds. That is not automatically a crime and not automatically a CPS thing so just hearing that story is not just some automatic response of contacting authorities. It might help provide a fuller picture and is worth mentioning with some of the other things but unless you have reason to believe the parent encouraged it, didn’t address it at all, or there was evidence of some sort of force then it’s not this event that would automatically necessitate police involvement. [Reply]
Originally Posted by luv:
I get where Katipan is coming from. To know about a crime against a child and to not know if you should do something about it, and having to come to CP for advice on what to do, is pretty gutless. I mean, c'mon man.
However, I do agree that filing a police report probably wouldn't do much good. Police are going to ask for evidence of a crime being committed. The only time I would call the police over CPS would be if you know something is currently happening in the home at the time of the call. They'll respond to an actual crime vs. "I heard someone say". Just makes sense that hearsay should be reported to the investigating authority. If they see evidence of a crime, they'll get the proper authorities involved.
Cut Katipan some slack. It's not a bad thing to go into "mama bear" mode and want to see action. Again, I do agree that calling Billay out over his morals and ethics (and possible attempt to just get attention) was a needed slap in the face. Just grow a pair and do what needs to be done.
Very odd the 2 people who have an issue with me are painting me as if I'm the bad person in this situation. [Reply]
Originally Posted by mr. tegu:
The sexual abuse thing was apparently between two 10 year olds. That is not automatically a crime and not automatically a CPS thing so just hearing that story is not just some automatic response of contacting authorities. It might help provide a fuller picture and is worth mentioning with some of the other things but unless you have reason to believe the parent encouraged it, didn’t address it at all, or there was evidence of some sort of force then it’s not this event that would automatically necessitate police involvement.
Excuse me, sir. It appears you read the OP and have put together a very logical response based on the facts available to you. Not sure this is the place for that. This is the place to attack Billay and label him a scumbag for not reporting a clear and obvious horrific crime against a child! Not sure Womble will ever see you the same now.
Edit: Obviously if there is ever any evidence that an adult or older child (teenager or teenager adjacent) is touching a younger child (any child if it's an adult involved) that person should be prosecuted. If it's an adult involved, they should be nuked from space. Two kids playing doctor and some white trashy banshee bloviating about it does not necessarily cross that threshold. Just to be clear. [Reply]
My profession ties me closely to working with CPS on occasion. Here in Missouri right now they are short staffed and barely follow up. If you see someone battling CPS issues they really messed up and probably don't deserve to have their children in their custody. [Reply]
Originally Posted by lewdog:
I like the police and they can be useful.
Not the place to start in this situation, however.
Our local police are useful . I smelled something horrible at my rockyard one day and went to investigate. I found a very large Dog had gotten up in a spot out of sight, died and was nothing but mush and maggots. I called the dog catcher lady,(who rents a house from me), and asked her if the sanitation department would come clean it up. She said she'd take care of it.
When I got back up there , there were two police officers with masks and gloves on cleaning it up with a shovel. LOL [Reply]
Originally Posted by mr. tegu: The sexual abuse thing was apparently between two 10 year olds. That is not automatically a crime and not automatically a CPS thing so just hearing that story is not just some automatic response of contacting authorities. It might help provide a fuller picture and is worth mentioning with some of the other things but unless you have reason to believe the parent encouraged it, didn’t address it at all, or there was evidence of some sort of force then it’s not this event that would automatically necessitate police involvement.
So we have established that both kids are under 10? They don't need the authorities for that they need parenting. And that doesn't make the boy a monster or molester unless he's forcing the issue. And if you didn't see them drink and drive I don't know that you should call and to be fair in the first sentence of the OP you showed that you've already judged this person as trashy and a big mouth. I think maybe you should take a step back unless you get more facts. [Reply]
