So I have an uncomfortable question to ask- I have a trashy co-worker who's a huge loud mouth bitch. She tells the whole office her business. Usually I just ignore it because I don't care and it's none of my business.
Lately she's been talking about some obnoxious fucked up shit. She's talked about how she and her bf drive with her kids in the car after they've been drinking "but aren't to the point of being fucked up" pretty stupid but whatever. Anyway she shares some of the most vile disturbing shit the other day about how she caught her nephew doing sexual stuff with her daughter like finger in the vagina.
I don't want to go to HR about it because it will just get me in trouble. Would I be out of line to report it to CPS? This lady sounds like she has no business having children. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Why Not?:
Correct. Unfortunately, with such vague information (not your fault, Titty) they won't actually do much but they will open a file and her name will be in it. Someone as trashy and as stupid as this person seems to be will **** something else up for her kids down the line and they will be more apt to do something if they already have a file.
Thanks there's other stuff I want to leave out as this is a public message board but you get the gist [Reply]
Originally Posted by Titty Meat:
I guess to answer your question I'm not sure unless I knew what the outcome would be.
I mean usually I don't think family business is strangers business but fuck when you put it out there like that. Maybe I grew up in a sheltered home or something but I found what I heard totally disgusting
I'd report what you heard. It's easy and gets this family on record somewhere. That way if the school reports something too, it's going to get escalated much quicker.
I spent 6 years as a foster parent and am intimately acquainted with CPS (at least in Missouri—don't know where you're at).
1. Yes, report it. If there's any suspicion of endangerment, neglect, or abuse, better to report it than let it slide. Too many of my kids could have suffered less if someone would have picked up the phone earlier.
2. Be aware CPS/DSS might not move fast. They are overwhelmed and understaffed. They also prioritize cases from mandated reporters (e.g. doctors, teachers, foster parents), b/c they expect us to have a better understanding of what abuse, neglect, and endangerment are. Nonetheless, it will at least put the kids on the radar.
3. I've done reports before. It never feels right, but it is the right thing. [Reply]
You should ask yourself what kind of man knows about an assault on a child and comes to CP for advice?
Your morality is dependant on public opinion and HR. Go sit on a cactus.
Sadly many people brush these comments off and do nothing. I think Billay is here simply to get validation that he is doing the right thing. It's awkward to have to make a phone call and provide these details so many people don't do it. I applaud him. The ones that brush off these comments allow child abuse to go on for years. [Reply]