I think the Internet and forums like this are fine for releasing frustrations and venting... but counseling on sensitive issues like this, when the details are unknown... not healthy.
I wish the guy the best for what he's going through, but take little of what's said here to heart, outside of the best wishes type stuff. Only you and your wife/significant other (didn't read to see if you're married, just making the assumption) know what's best for you here, if it's meant to be, you can work through it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by Arrowhead Nation:
I'm actually going to suggest something that I haven't seen mentioned.
Forgive her
I'm not saying that you guys don't need some counseling, and serious relationship repair, but I know of many couples where the adultery didn't result in divorce. I know that it takes two to tango, but If you really do love her, and your children, then stay and deal with it. Forgiveness isn't about her...it's about you.
And honestly, take a few minutes and think about how powerful the testimony will be on the other side of this. To your future children. To your family. To your friends.
If God forgives us, we can forgive each other.
I have forgiven her.
My son comes first.
Making his mother, whom I love, my enemy will not create anything positive for anyone involved.
We've talked about what needs to be done.
We are getting along and moving things forward.
It's going to be a big change. I've never been away from my son.
I don't know how it will be good for either us. I'm kinda his window to the world.
She has no idea what she's in for with me not around all the time.
Originally Posted by Mile High Mania:
I think the Internet and forums like this are fine for releasing frustrations and venting... but counseling on sensitive issues like this, when the details are unknown... not healthy.
I wish the guy the best for what he's going through, but take little of what's said here to heart, outside of the best wishes type stuff. Only you and your wife/significant other (didn't read to see if you're married, just making the assumption) know what's best for you here, if it's meant to be, you can work through it.
Sound advice.
Everyone's is regarding their reference point for what inspired it in them.
Information is only as valuable as how you decide to use it..or not use it. [Reply]
The best advise I received was to feel your pain and let it run it's course (but not too long). Let it happen. Don't try and cover or suppress it. Deal with it how YOU deal with it. [Reply]
Originally Posted by eDave:
The best advise I received was to feel your pain and let it run it's course (but not too long). Let it happen. Don't try and cover or suppress it. Deal with it how YOU deal with it.
This...and move forward and do things that make you happy and continue with that. Heartbreak sucks...esp when you believe you are with the one. Trust me it gets better! [Reply]
Originally Posted by eDave:
Something tells me he won't be around your son very long.
Supposedly he's cleaned up.
She is clean and lives right. She's a nurse and won't allow BS around her son.
Of course I also thought that she wouldn't fuck the dude. So what do I know.
FTR She's always loved this dude. I have no idea why. He's not attractive.
This is what happens when you hook up with someone for their looks/physical attraction.
I've actually felt guilty over the years for leaving a woman who really, truly loved me for this one......For one reason, and one reason only. Because she's hot.
I was flying all over the world taking her on my business trips. Bar-tending weekends. Fucking loving life, man.
And shit has done nothing but get worse since I've met this woman.
Bitch beat me down. Almost KO'd me with this shit.
